It can be so easy to focus on relationship challenges, dramas and issues, but how often do we take the time to celebrate the good stuff?
In this video, Justin and I celebrate and appreciate the HUGE steps we have taken over the last few months. After facing into one of our biggest marriage hurdles, we are finding tremendous value in taking time to appreciate one another for not giving up, and for consistently doing the work required to create a healthier version of our relationship. Has it been easy? Nope, but it has been extremely rewarding.
Justin has been changing his relationship with his peacekeeper by learning to communicate, in the moment, what he is truly feeling, thinking and desiring. Through consistently communicating, he has faced into some big fears about “rocking the boat” and disrupting the peace.
I have been learning to see my PDD (what we compassionately call Perpetual Dissatisfaction Disorder). Studies have shown that humans have a “negativity bias,” where we spend 70-80% of our thoughts focused on the negative – what is wrong with our relationship, what needs to be fixed, and what I am dissatisfied with. Instead of blindly following this well-established neural pathway in my brain, I am instead pausing and orienting towards something I appreciate. Through consistent practice we are finding that there is a great deal more joy and fun in our relationship.
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~ Juna & Justin